Just some transparent words telling you to be kind.

Dear Blog Diary,
Remember that in the day you have to find pitch black and during the night there will always be some light. In that, there is more light in this world that dark.

Still, I’ll always revert back to “some people just can’t feel anything good about themselves unless they are putting other people down.”

If you actually read the junk that I write, you’ll know that I genuinely try to uplift everyone. It’s not always easy, and not because they are assholes. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out how to support. Sometimes it’s ego – they think you’re pandering. Sometimes they need different motivation – Michael Jordan loves adversity. Sometimes you’re just not the person they want the support from.

But I really do hate the idea of putting people down.

Same time, not everything is a micro aggression. As much as I will always empathize, we could all be a little less sensitive, defensive, and in the face of adversity have some better coping skills. I promise, you are OK. Maybe fucked up, but you’re OK.

Ultimately it’s always us us us. Even if you are reading this right now, might be thinking to yourself “Jesus Eric do you realize how you’re embarrassing yourself thinking anyone will actually read your bullshit opinions? Narcissistic in nature. You want and just have to spew out your thoughts thinking anyone gives a fuck?”

Well, technically you are.

And no. I actually don’t think or want that. I think every single person on this earth wants three things: To be understood, to be loved, and to be valued.

Right now Kuma has had an inconsistent limp. I love her, I value her so much – Wish she could just tell me what’s wrong. I don’t understand.

Your boss totally gets how you operate, values your hard work – doesn’t love you.

Husband loves his wife after 20 years, he gets her, but maybe he takes her for granted – doesn’t value her, at least not like he should.

I do believe there is more light in this world than dark. And if you find yourself in darkness, I find a nice practice is to question where do you get all three (maybe not the same person), how/who do you give all three, and is the answer to both questions, yourself?

Best,
E